Love Languages, Cooking Together and Heart Spoons

Love Languages, Cooking Together and Heart Spoons

Feb 15, 2024Anita MacKenzie

February is the month of love. While we celebrate St. Valentine’s Day on February 14th, the whole month is often associated with the “lovebirds” of early spring. While we enjoy showcasing our unique silverware throughout the year, in February it’s fun to highlight our heart coffee/dessert table spoons.

Many of our friends love to make delectable desserts for loved ones during this month. That got us wondering – is cooking one of the love languages? We did some research and discovered that when a group of 2,000 Americans were polled, 71% claimed cooking as their love language. What’s more, 73% said that cooking with their partner is one of their favorite things to do.


open book with Love in scrabble letters on the page

Photo by Emmanuel Phaeton on Unsplash

The 5 Love Languages

It’s been over 30 years since the book, “The 5 Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate” was first published. Written by renowned relationship expert, Dr. Gary Chapman, the book has sold over 20 million copies and has been on the New York bestsellers list since 2007. 

So what are the 5 love languages? Words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service, physical touch, and receiving gifts. According to the book, we each tend to express our love in one or more of these ways.

But, even if we acknowledge the different love languages, if we go by the results of that poll, cooking someone you love a meal is even better than buying them flowers or giving them a gift! As old-fashioned as it may seem, the way to somebody’s heart still seems to be to cook them something delicious.

Beyond romantic partners, 70% of people* said cooking with family is a favorite pastime. It seems that food and cooking for or with one another is part of almost every relationship we have.

Let’s look at each love language and see how it relates to cooking together.

Words of affirmation: To a person whose main love language is words of affirmation, words are everything. What you say or write to this person will be very important.

Whether you’re in the process of cooking or enjoying the dinner you cooked together, saying things like: “I love that you added more vanilla to the recipe because you know it’s a favorite” or “This tastes incredible!”  Thanking them for cooking your favorite mini blueberry pies with you is like a warm embrace.

Jason heart spoons and blueberry pie

Jason heart tea spoons are a sweet addition to this dessert table. The nascent steel handles contrast beautifully with the high shine of the heart-shaped table spoon.

Quality time: If spending time with your loved one doing things, talking, or just hanging out together on a lazy Sunday afternoon is the highlight of your relationship, quality time is your love language.

Cooking together is a great way to spend focused time together. The teamwork, tasting, and sharing can feel almost like a therapeutic interlude.

Ridge copper heart spoons on the Clara Rose marble board

The Copper Ridge Heart Coffee/Dessert Table Spoon Set brings a sweet, whimsical touch to your dessert table. The high-polished heart-shaped table spoons contrast beautifully with the rustic copper-finished handles. Spend some quality time together over coffee with these handcrafted heart coffee spoons.

Acts of service: The things you do for your love that make them feel loved or make their life easier. These things can be anything, from getting up early to make or pack their lunch, taking out the trash, paying the bills on time or even taking the initiative to do the dishes when they have to work from home. The term “actions speak louder than words” is very much what this love language is all about.

Offering to do a more mundane or less pleasant task such as chopping onions or measuring out the spices when cooking together would be an act of service. Thinking of ways to make cooking together more pleasant for your loved one is a testament to your thoughtfulness.

Coffee and cookies with Sundance heart coffee spoons.

Photo by Vicky of @vickymami8482

Bring sweet elegance to your dessert table with the Sundance Heart Coffee/Dessert Table Spoon Set. Showcased with our signature rustic copper handles, these lustrous heart-shaped coffee spoons bring a whimsical vibe to the occasion.

Physical Touch: Although sex is part of physical touch, showing love to your partner with physical touch can be as simple as squeezing their hand when they’ve had a stressful day. Kissing, holding hands, sitting close, cuddling, and giving your loved one a back rub are all ways to express this love language.

You may think cooking together is not that intimate, but playful nudges or a quick hug while waiting for the water to boil are all little physical touch moments that add warmth to the experience. 

Dessert parfait with two Sundance heart dessert spoons

Photo by Minda of @ermindacelebrates

Gift Giving: Those with “gift giving” as their love language are touched when they receive a great gift, but they also love to give gifts. They usually pay close attention to important days like birthdays and anniversaries, spending time to get just the right gift. Are people with this love language materialistic? No, not at all. For them, it’s not about the price of a gift, it’s the thought put into it.

What’s the connection with gift giving and cooking together?

When two people put love and effort into prepping, mixing, and cooking their favorite dish, the completed dish becomes a gift to one another. There’s also the “gift” of all those feel-good moments you created together.

Twig black heart spoons

Photo by Susan of @livingwithheart

When it comes to gift giving and cooking together, we can’t think of a better gift to give someone than a set of unique silverware. Each set of heart spoons includes 4 individually crafted heart table spoons and comes packaged in a cardboard box with a window for easy gifting.  

Heart Spoons FAQ

What are heart spoons used for?

Heart spoons are perfect for a variety of uses, whether it be as dessert spoons or coffee spoons. Just imagine enjoying a delicious chocolate mousse that you made together or scooping up the foamy milk on your Sunday morning cappuccino.

What heart spoon styles are available?  

Our heart table spoons come in four different styles:

Twig (Burnt Black)
Jason (Nascent Steel)
Ridge (Antique Copper)
Sundance (Antique Copper)

How do I take care of my heart spoons?

Our heart-shaped spoons are made from high-quality 18/8 stainless steel which is safe to wash in the dishwasher. However, we advise against using lemon or orange-scented detergents as they contain citric acid which can be highly corrosive to metals. For customers who prefer to hand wash their utensils, we recommend drying them thoroughly to maintain their quality and appearance.

These handcrafted spoons are designed to be used and enjoyed, so go ahead and enjoy them to the fullest!

 * April 20, 2020: Food for Thought: 2/3 of Americans Are More Likely to Date Someone Who's a Good Cook. Survey reveals that cooking is America's favorite love language


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